Sometimes, what you don’t have the courage to say haunts you. My vocal cowardice creeks and wakes me. I’ve woken to a nagging, uninvited guest, but I knew the outline of its misshapen face. My passive silence etched its ugly features, which, although air, somehow revealed the solid form of my own weakness. Perhaps, my …
Category: The Single Life
Confidants and Candor: Sharing Regrets for the Good
Have you wished a friend would have confided her regret, so you could have skirted the same shame? Or, have you wished for courage and humility to share your bad decision with one you suspected would parrot your pain? This post is dedicated to my admirable friends who set aside their pride, so their past …
How to Avoid Madness and Enjoy Casual Dating
If you happen to have five minutes, I want to give your well-worn dating outlook a makeover. Start the timer, and study yourself in the mirror. You – yes you! – could be transformed into a glowing dater. But, first, you have to be willing to try a different shade of dating. Even when what …
Dating App Gold
My goal is for you to join a dating app within a few minutes of reading this post. Who doesn’t want to leap into the predictable experience of countless bathroom selfies and somber, introspective … did I mention solo … videos? If you don’t take your overwhelming loneliness too seriously, it’s a gold mine. With …
Is Indifferent Intimacy Good?
If an individual’s worth is a cultural value, I’m not sure why casual sex is in season. Our culture celebrates detached pleasure as a badge of freedom or shrugs at it like a non-event. It probably is much more fun in the moment. Every individual should have the freedom to choose for herself. The …
For John
I met unforgettable “John” on a recent walk. Thankfully, when we met, I was on the phone with a good friend, who overheard the bizarre, insightful exchange. A few moments before, my friend and I were describing amusing caricatures of our love lives, and we joked whether moving is necessary for a fresh dating pool. …
Singles: Before You Jump, Some Brief Thoughts to Consider
Before you jump due to crushing loneliness, consistent dating disappointment, or the overwhelming fear you will never (yes, never) meet the person with whom you can be fully vulnerable, uninhibited, accepted, and white hot between the sheets, will you pause five minutes to read this article? As someone who has experienced the above, and who …